Can men and women just be friends?

No.

Watch this video.

I made a post about this previously.

Notice in the video above how every woman says yes and every guy says no.

That’s a lot of guys being put into the ‘friends zone’ by a lot of girls. This should be made socially unacceptable (the whole ‘leading the guy on’). However it is a result of guys not making their intentions clear (guy’s fault).

Here we have a lot of girls who are either naive enough to think the guy isn’t interested in them, or selfish enough to string them along.

The guy expects a relationship out of the deal (most likely sexual). He gives the girls his friendship and emotional support. The girl accepts this emotional support (a benefit to her) but denies the guy what would be of benefit to him.

Judging by the reactions to the girls in the above video, it seems that they know exactly how the guy feels about them.

The guy isn’t innocent in this whole situation either. Instead of just coming out and making his intentions clear, he’s trying to take the ‘back door’ (so to speak) into a relationship with the girl.

Using a friendship as a tool to try spark a relationship with a girl is pretty low. These guys are rightly punished.

Now a moment of clarification and advice.

Firstly, there is nothing wrong with having female friends in the context of a group. The only problem is if it’s a ‘one on one’ type friendship.

So if there is a group with 5 guys and 5 girls, you can still be friends and there is no real manipulation going on (or ‘leading the guy on’).

However if it’s: ‘let’s go for coffee, just you and me’, then that is where the problems begin (unless it is in the ‘girlfriend-boyfriend’ dynamic).

The best advice would be to avoid these relationships all together.

In the words of one youtube commenter:

Regards

-Simon