Can Men And Women ‘Just Be Friends’?

Can men and women just be friends?

No.

Watch this video.

 

I made a post about this previously.

Notice in the video above how every woman says yes and every guy says no.

That’s a lot of guys being put into the ‘friends zone’ by a lot of girls. This should be made socially unacceptable (the whole ‘leading the guy on’). However it is a result of guys not making their intentions clear (guy’s fault).

 

Here we have a lot of girls who are either naive enough to think the guy isn’t interested in them, or selfish enough to string them along.

The guy expects a relationship out of the deal (most likely sexual). He gives the girls his friendship and emotional support. The girl accepts this emotional support (a benefit to her) but denies the guy what would be of benefit to him.

Judging by the reactions to the girls in the above video, it seems that they know exactly how the guy feels about them.

 

The guy isn’t innocent in this whole situation either. Instead of just coming out and making his intentions clear, he’s trying to take the ‘back door’ (so to speak) into a relationship with the girl.

Using a friendship as a tool to try spark a relationship with a girl is pretty low. These guys are rightly punished.

 

Now a moment of clarification and advice.

Firstly, there is nothing wrong with having female friends in the context of a group. The only problem is if it’s a ‘one on one’ type friendship.

So if there is a group with 5 guys and 5 girls, you can still be friends and there is no real manipulation going on (or ‘leading the guy on’).

However if it’s: ‘let’s go for coffee, just you and me’, then that is where the problems begin (unless it is in the ‘girlfriend-boyfriend’ dynamic).

The best advice would be to avoid these relationships all together.

In the words of one youtube commenter:

Regards

-Simon

 

How Not To Make A Marriage Proposal

This is how not to make a marriage proposal.

Watch this video.

 

This top comment sums it up best.

 

There is nothing more romantic about a proposal in public than there is about a proposal in private. The only difference being that one is manipulative (using pressure from a crowd to make the ‘target’ say ‘yes’).

We have to realise that the above video may be fake. It may be 2 actors. However you can find, on youtube and other video sharing sites, other public proposal fails.

 

Regards

-Simon

Fun On Youtube- Episode 8

Watch this video:

 

For those of you who couldn’t be arsed watching this video, it relates a story of a man who was wrongfully convicted for rape. He was found to be innocent via DNA evidence, then given $4 million in compensation.

 

His now ex wife (wife at the time of conviction) is demanding a slice of that 4 million, despite divorcing him 3 years into his 25 years in jail.

 

Now if you’re like me, you may think this is ridiculous. After all, she didn’t stick buy him for all these years and therefore shouldn’t receive anything. However don’t be surprised if she ends up winning some money.

 

You see, over the years, the vows of marriage have been pissed on so often that very few people take marriage seriously anymore.

 

Marriage used to be a life time commitment. These days it is a commitment up until the point where it becomes inconvenient.

 

This is largely a cause of no fault divorce laws being introduced (allowing anyone to obtain a divorce even if there is no justifiable reason).

 

When she chose to marry him, she made a commitment to stand by him no matter what. She should have been there supporting him every one of those 25 years. But she wasn’t. She bailed when it got tough.

 

The classic vows:

For better or worse, in sickness and in health.

Should be changed to:

For better and in health… as long as it’s convenient for me.

There really is no point to taking these vows if you don’t plan on keeping them.

More on this sad joke of an institution later.

Regards

-Simon

 

The Pay Of Politicians

Recently our federal politicians here in Australia decided to give themselves a pay raise. They did this through an ‘independent’ body. Once they found out the Remuneration Tribunal was in favor of drastically increasing their pay, they quickly gave them unilateral powers to determine politicians pay in order to avoid the political inconvenience of providing themselves with an increase.

 

Their pay is not linked to performance (their performance has been rubbish in the last few years). Their pay is determined by themselves. This is an agent-principle problem, where the interests of a worker and employee are not aligned.

 

A worker wants to work the least amount possible and get the highest wage possible (in this case the politicians are being paid by the Australian tax payer).

 

The worker wants their employee to work as much as possible with the least amount of pay.

 

Further problems arise when the employer is not able to monitor the output of the employee (or at least not properly).

One justification of the pay increase is the saying ‘if you pay peanuts, you get monkeys.’

 

Unfortunately for Australians, we are paying caviar prices and getting downs syndrome monkeys.

The justification for this pay increase was to attract better quality candidates to put themselves up for election for the local seats in parliament. Unfortunately this cannot happen until the next election… but guess what? The pay increase happens immediately (even though the next election isn’t scheduled until around 2 years from now).

Politicians shouldn’t be blamed for this, they are doing what is in their (economic) best interests. It isn’t really a political issue because both sides of politics are benefiting from it. The Greens party (third side of politics) feign outrage and then happily accept the pay increase.

What Australians need is a system whereby they can adequately monitor the performance and pay of politicians. There are a number of ways.

 

1) They could have a system whereby their politicians must perform some significant KPI (key performance indicator) or face loss of income.

For example, you could concentrate on an economic KPI (which is appropriate since we are talking about pay for politicians).

We could say that the government must keep the budget in surplus and must keep the economy growing (out of recession) or their pay reverts back to the minimum wage. If they succeed, each member of parliament gets paid a large sum ($500 000 each, $1 million for the front benchers).

The economy would be so well managed that within a year we would turn our current deficit into a surplus, all the while keeping economic growth strong (since money wasn’t wasted by government).

 

The problem with this system would be inflation (government printing money to ensure their target is reached) and also the fact that the government reports on their own progress (and not an independent body).

 

So in other words, they would ‘cook the books’. They would use accounting tricks to show that there was economic growth and surplus where they may not have been.

It would be like if you allowed kids to write their own report cards… every kid would come home with straight A’s. Same principle applies here.

I have a second alternative.

2) We force political candidates to vote for or against a pay increase during an election. You would do this by placing (on the voting slip) whether or not they voted for or against a pay increase.

So for example, a person may look at their voting slip and it would look something like this:

 

John Smith (Y)

Steve Sims (N)

Sarah Jones (N)

 

etc, etc, etc

You would see the name of the candidate and whether they supported a pay rise (Y) or were against it (N).

A voter would be able to see whether or not the candidate wanted a pay increase, and could factor that into their decision regarding who they wanted to vote to employ to run their country.

This would force political parties in marginal seats (seats which could realistically be won by each 2 or more parties) to place an ‘N’ next to their candidate, this decreasing their chances of increased pay. A candidate would know that a vote against increased pay would increase their chances of being elected.

 

There are a few problems with this system.

Firstly, it requires politicians to pass this system into law. They won’t do this as it harms their chances of getting paid more.

The second problem involves political parties playing games with the system. They may decide that any safe seat (a electorate which only one party has a realistic chance of winning) will vote ‘yes’ for a pay increase. They may find enough safe seats to pass any pay increase.

This does, however, leave them vulnerable to independent local candidates. It would also force political parties to vote ‘no’ in marginal seats, unless they came to a prior agreement. This is why it is important to have the vote be private, and not allow it to be changed once it has been cast (say, a month before an election).

 

3) A final way to prevent ridiculous pay increases would be to have term limits on parliament. So a single person may only be allowed to serve in parliament once and no more. Any pay increase would only be enacted after the next election (whenever that may be).

 

The obvious weakness here is that politicians on both sides will not vote this into law in the first place… unfortunate as it would get rid of the career politician over night. A person would make their bed and be forced to sleep in it.

 

I would also get rid of any pensions to a members of parliament (which are a complete fraud). If it was up to me (thankfully for politicians it isn’t), politicians would be getting minimum wage.

This would encourage those people who have made it in business or another area (and therefore have no need for money) to get into politics for the love of their country or for the ego boost that comes along with it. They may also be encouraged due to the decreased energy required for playing politics.

 

That’s all there is to say for now.

 

Regards

 

-Simon

Fun On Youtube- Episode 7

This is exactly why I don’t believe in opposite-sex friendships.

Sure, I hang out with female friends in the context of a large group of friends. So a couple of guys and a couple of girls etc.

 

But if we’re talking one guy with one girl hanging out… no.

 

This should especially be true if one of them has a boyfriend/girlfriend or husband/wife.

 

All the disadvantages are outlined in the above video.

 

They include but are not limited to:

  • Being treated as the ball-less ‘gay boyfriend’.
  • Being hit on (if you are the one in the relationship).
  • Having to listen to all their problems.

 

Opposite-sex friendships are usually created by the guy being a pussy beggar (see below video).

 

These friendships may work in the future. However until society evolves, these relationships will remain harmful.

 

Regards

 

-Simon

The Desert Island Test

The desert island test is a simple tool to distinguish your preference between 2 alternatives.

 

Ask yourself: If you were stuck on a desert island, and you could only pick one of two alternatives, which would you pick?

 

So for example, if you are wondering whether or not you like watermelon or rock melon better… all you need is the desert island test.

 

So you are stuck with a choice between unlimited watermelons for the rest of your life on that desert island, or unlimited rock melons. That is all you can eat from now until the end of your life.

 

I personally would pick watermelons.

 

You may be different… that’s cool.

 

This test is brilliant as it takes out all external factors. You are stuck on a desert island so your decision is not altered by anything else.

 

BUT SIMON, THAT’S A HYPOTHETICAL… I DON’T DEAL WITH HYPOTHETICALS!

First thing, clam down.

 

Second, EVERYTHING is a hypothetical. Wondering what you’ll do tomorrow is purely a hypothetical as you could die of a heart attack in your sleep etc etc.

 

Every decision you make. So don’t use that b.s. excuse to avoid making a decision, or to consider what actions you may take in the future.

 

Regards

 

-Simon

Halloween 2011

Halloween 2011 was a total disappointment for myself and most likely the kids around my area.

Here’s how it went down.

Remembering how awesome a day it was as a kid, I was looking forward to Halloween on behalf of the other kids in the neighbourhood.

So it was off to the shops to buy chocolate bars to give out should any of them come to the door trick or treating.

Walked about 20 minutes to the shops (had no car) in the searing heat (not fun). This is no normal walk… it’s all up-hill. And we aren’t talking about a slight incline either, we are talking a very steep hill.

So we are at the shops and 30 chocolate bars are bought (big ones at $1 each). Was tempted to buy more thinking that 30 wouldn’t last, but figured that there was always the possibility to drive up and get more (when there was access to a car).

 

Very glad that more weren’t bought.

 

That was 3pm.

Waiting…

 

5pm

 

Waiting…

 

6pm

And finally there are 2 kids in costumes with their mother walking past the house.

I can’t wait… but then they walk straight past.

I run to the fridge, grab 2 of the chocolate bars and run down the street to give it to them. They appreciated them, but let it be known that they were only going to houses with decorations out the front of the house (so they knew the house was willing).

 

So 2 bars down, 28 to go.

 

I wait another half an hour and it’s almost dark. Another girl comes with her mum and dad. They get their bar. She and her parents did the right thing by going to everyone’s house.

3 down now.

It was soon dark and you could finally hear groups of kids running about having fun (of course accompanied by parents, which I would have found SO lame as a kid, but anyways.

 

A group of 6 girls come past and take one each. However they only did this after being told that we were participating in the event.

6 more down, 21 to go.

 

After this, I was starting to see a theme. Kids were only coming to houses that were showing that they were participating (through decorations on the outside).

 

We didn’t have any decorations so decided to turn the front light on (as simple as that might have been).

 

Success… 5 more kids came.

 

To add to that my friends mother came to take a chocolate bar (she did this after my friends dad saw facebook comments of mine bitching about how nobody was coming to my house). She had told me that their house had had so many kids that they ran out of lollies… there’s no justice in the world.

15 more to go.

 

And that’s how it stayed.

 

There was a group of about 10 kids who walked past (with their parents), they didn’t bother to stop. Again it must have been because the parents only wanted to go to the houses of the little kids (and not bother anyone else).

 

If you got through that story… well done.

 

This has to be the most disappointing Halloween ever. Money was wasted on chocolate bars (buying double what was needed) and those chocolate bars have to go somewhere, and since I am addicted to chocolate, we all know where that is.

 

Lessons

Next year Halloween will be a Wednesday as opposed to a Monday (a rubbish day) and so will have more participants. I also learned that you need to have decorations outside your house in order for people to be confident to approach your house.

 

Conclusion

Back in my day (sounding like an old man) we would have gone to every house. If you didn’t give us stuff, you were a dick (and were punished). There was no fear about going to houses with no decorations since it was expected that you participate.

Now we have parents who will avoid houses because of this reason. Really sad. It should be a day for the kids (where they get heaps of sweet stuff) and a day for the adults (where they get the enjoyment of an exciting event).

It’s the same with people putting Christmas lights up, everyone is in a celebratory mood. We don’t have that anymore, and that’s sad.

 

Guess there are 14 chocolate bars here to relieve my depression (already eaten one of them).

 

Regards

 

-Simon

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p.s. hopefully all the kids actually still had fun. This post is more to highlight that it doesn’t seem as fun as it used to be back in the 90′s (my time).

 

 

 

Simon Katich An Michael Clarke

Recently Simon Katich (recently dumped Australian test cricket opener) spoke out about his dropping from the Australian team. He argued that captain Michael Clarke was implicit in his dropping.

 

After coming out, Cricket Australia organised a hearing regarding his comments (trying to shut him up). Despite criticism from CA chief James Sutherland, Katich remained unrepentant.

 

A few years ago Clarke and Katich had a bust up in the Australian dressing rooms. Clarke wanted Katich to sing the victory song so that he could leave to spend time with his girlfriend. Katich (responsible for the singing of the song) refused.

 

Years later and Katich- having been the top run scorer and having the highest average over the past 3 years- was dropped from the team.

 

Some say that Katich’s remarks have harmed his chances of being selected again. I don’t think this is the case. The reason the media is even talking about him is because he kicked up such a fuss.

 

Compare that to the many cricketers in the past few years who have been dropped and remained silent, and you will see why what he has done is such a good move.

 

Brad Hodge at the beginning of this year wasn’t selected for the world cup squad. This is despite him easily being the best batsmen in the domestic scene (and still better than most if not all of the batsmen in the Australian team).

 

Or think of Stuart Clark who was dropped after one bad game in the 2009 Ashes (after single handedly resurrecting the series for Australia).

 

You then get (on the opposite end of the spectrum) those who continually mess up at key moments for Australia, but for whatever reason don’t get dropped (or manage to find their way back into the team very quickly). Think Siddle, Johnson, Haddin and Marcus North.

 

I am no Katich groupie. Back in 2005 when I was in school, my friend (fellow cricket fan) and I would spend entire legal studies classes bagging him out.

 

This would be because of his slow strike rate in one day cricket (playing for his spot instead of for the team). However over the years as a test player he ended up being Australia’s most dedicated player (equal with Hussey).

 

My praise of a player will come because of their willingness to dedicate their entire being to playing for Australia (and not blind worship for the player).

 

The current Australian team are full of mentally weak pansies (minus Hussey and Bollinger when he plays). There are also a lot who do not care about playing for Aus (despite what might come out of their mouths.

 

Regards

 

-Simon